I talked to him about it and tried compromising but it just didnt work. It would be one thing if your SO is telling you where you can and cannot go. I want him to be with M. because he wants to, not because he isn't allowed to go and meet anybody else. But understand that it is an opportunity for something to happen because you are specifically putting yourself in that situation. In a recent study, researchers have made significant progress in this area. I have also felt the "most women are bisexual" opinion to be not true in my circles. My bf did all these things, too, but now he's not. The bar is really not my husbands thing, but I go out with my friends without him and he is cool with it. You were. Lets see how many times I can add to this. My boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me a By entering this site you declare But, that's not the point of your post so I digress. If its an issue with your partner, then you shouldn't do it. We've been going there for about 3 months now. Whether he is hooking up with another girl or not, I'd question why he would be drunk often. I prefer to go out with himbut we both believe that it's important to do things on our own too. And if I'm going for a walk, to the grocery store, the gym, or out with my best friend, I make sure he knows where I'm going, when I'm going, and when I'm on my way home. I trust him, too. But when it seems to be an all night thing and it's an always and never, those are telling signs that something isn't normal. The scene you J. described in your little local bar is J. so Philly, to a "T." I LOVE that town--was J. there last Friday, and had a wonderful afternoon, at DiBruni Brothers and Rittenhouse Square. That's called a rule change. S H said it great, however i would add that the only way i go out is either with "the girls" or with my husband. And you allow that? 3. But just letting your SO know where youre going or what youll be doing is very simple. Also, you've officially met a women who has no attraction whatsoever to other women!! Most of the time I go out with my husband, but that is because we don't get very many opportunities to be out together and so I really want to be with him. Help should I stay with him or not and it has been four long years that we have been together. i dont really know how to feel about this. He aint changing especially if you arent there. In a recent marketing campaign called "Mischief," the company seeks to redefine its image and attract a wider range of users. With us its always all good because we know with who, where and why the other person is going out. Seriously . ? "There's nothing wrong with getting drinks with coworkers or going out for a guys/girls night with friends," Herring says. going out alone indicates infedlity " potentially" or alcoholism. Am I allowed to go to them on my own? Women shouldn't have to act like Jason Bourne going to crazy lengths to avoid attention just to have a drink and listen to a band without harassment. We LIKE being home together. But I would care if he went with women , J. like he would not like M. sitting drinking or dancing with men. He didn't let me know anything. It would be nice, thats why its called a relationship! She went out with the girls one too many times. We don't go to meet new people--we go to have girl time. The funny thing was it was that attitude of his that I think made him sleep around. I always get the excuse of the phone dying or it fell but yet I can see he is online on Facebook etc it's always the weekend that his battery has died when he's out I don't blame you for stressing I have this situation every weekend it's at the point where I've had enough. You know the one that is filled with mostly guys, laid back and where everyone knows everyone and if you don't you will by the time you walk out and people cheer when you walk in the door? An adult, should know how to handle flattery and/or flirtations. Answer: I think you'll both be happier if you let her go out with friends within reason, of course. You know he's thinking of you. I saw some people I know and I guess we go there enough, some of the staff know M. by sight. Doesn't bother M.. Now, if he were encouraging sexual relationships with other people I WOULD be bothered. Jealousy comes from a lack of trust. Sex is often a part of healthy, committed relationships, so if you two aren't getting intimate anymore, that might be an indication that something's not right. If you recognize that your partner does these things without you, it doesn't mean that the relationship is definitely over, but it does probably mean that there's some sort of problem there. I know I can trust him. You wanna pay me 500 bucks an hour I can ask you as many questions as you feel like answering. All about the power play. I don't want to ask for his attention. In my circle of friends, I am the cook, I know what it feels like. And I understood that too because I thought it was okay to be angry, but I still don't get angry with him when I'm mad. You have to trust that he's just enjoying the company of his bros: drinking beers, talking smack and telling dirty jokes. . He never mentions any friends and doesn't. 05-17-2012, 01:53 PM steve1282 : Location: Dallas. I don't say that he should stay with me all the time, but he can send me a message from time to time. *Could* I go to a bar w/out my spouse? Hi dan,my girlfriend and I are together for 2 years now,and its the 3rd time that she has been to the club without me,she even says that she doesn't want any commitments now,where as I do,During these 2 years we haven't been to a club together,and I don't know what's going on behind my back,but she goes with her elder girl cousins to . While telling him your problem just say I know its long distance which makes it hard for the both of us but I feel like I wanna talk to you more, and it worries me that you're always drinking and im afraid that there might be another girl out there. I feel like that is dangerous behavior. We are comfortable with each other and trust each other 100%!! She may be looking for love or just hungry for attention. At all. After extensive research, he discovered he could create dramatic changes to his health simply focusing on 3 things that sabotage our body as we age. Having a "Guys" night. if its a guys night out and its like 10 buddys sure, if hes going by himself, somethings a foot.Going out with your buddys is homosocial behavior, A typical of men. If he was the type of person that wanted to hang out in bars and set that example for his child, I wouldn't have even bothered with dating him. I've never been into the bar scenebut my fiancee doesn't get upset if I want some "M." time. So, I told him i dont want him to feel he has to ask me whenever he wants to do anything. Now, like I said..if this changes, and he starts wanting to go more, like my bf is, and it cuts into your alone time..then yeah. Usually the other one is watching the kids. Your feelings are valid. I don't control my husband. were going to be living together before too long, so I am just letting him enjoy his time right now and trying to relax about it as difficult as it is not to worry. "It likely means that they don't want you in family photos and/or on their family's mind. My boyfriend wants to go clubbing alone My boyfriend of one year who is long distance at the moment thinks it would be totally fine for him to go to a club by himself. We have a very stable relationship and have known each other for over 20 years even though we have only been married for almost 3 years. He he knows your always in he feels safe. I've lived in my little city since I was a teenager and I run into people EVERYwhere, so when I meet a friend I prefer a private location where I am better able to focus on them and our conversation. My husband will not go out to bars or clubs without M., he thinks it is wrong and makes him uncomfortable.in his defense he is devilishly handsome and gets hit on like no one I have ever seen, so I get where he is coming from. But I've certainly made myself a margarita at home alone :) If I were to do that, or my husband were to do that, I personally would think that's odd -- or 'something' is up (due to our personalities, not because we don't trust one another). If im with someone i trust fine, go have fun. You still have freedom. As many said, you have to take your spouses comfort level into consideration. Its putting trust into the OTHER person. I don't visit bars very often. Started January 19, By with this lady jumping back at my right back getting a keen excellent piggy straight back travel and you may biting my personal ear canal whenever i carry the back again to the latest pub. (ok i'm being nice, i think it sends that message loud and clear, because men are horny pigs :) -said with love lol.) I've seen a lot of posts on here recently about whether its ok for a married or committed person to go to lunch/bar with single person of the opposite sex (or same gender depending on preference) and it had M. wondering if you guys/girls ever go to a bar or an establishment where other singles are and talk to new people? Um, not if you don't let it. The whole idea that you never go without each other to parties is quite frankly absurd. But there's obviously cases where the spouse is comfortable with the environment like you described J. M. so I don't see an issue. Its not in my personality to go to a bar alone.but I have gone out to the bar with some girlfriends and/or my SIL. I'm a very sporadic patron of this bar. My kuwait he text me day and night but no telphone call. My husband HATES it!! I cook for my friends (plural). So my wife and I go out to this bar pretty much every Wednesday night for Karaoke. 1. Looking for advice on handling a disappointing visit, She broke up with me because of my gambling, France to the US - long distance problems. You're dating or living with this good looking guy, maybe he's charming and you feel wanted . honey, if you are not doing anything you are not sopossed to to, then dont give it another thought. We know where the lines are where each of us are comfortable with and neither one of us has ever crossed it. 568 views, 38 likes, 3 loves, 3 comments, 74 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from El poeta boaner: El poeta boaner was live. In recent years, there has been a growing need for safer opioid alternatives. I did it again. So no, we don't go to bars and not J. because we don't drink but we also don't go to strip places either and we definitely limit the amount of contact we have alone with the opposite sex. J. my personal opinionto each his own. That I trust him to hang out means he can trust that if I say she give M. a bad vibe it isn't because she is pretty, or anything, it is J. something is off. Do I flirt with guys at bars when I'm out with friends? My boyfriend M 23 is losing feelings for me F 20 and idk what to do. Not my style. Because it shows you trust him. If I'm going to go out it will be with my SO. He was drunk and he is supposed to go to work in the morning. If he cares about you telling you what he is up to would just be second nature. No brainer. I can tell you as a man, that he appreciates that, it shows trust, it shows that you are trying to grow in the relationship, and it shows that you love and care that he take time for himself. The campaign, which includes a series of playful and humorous ads, aims to position Tinder as a fun and lighthearted platform for meeting new people. Covering Phoenix, Mesa, Glendale, Scottsdale, Gilbert, the valley . You don't want to make it awkward and post up at the bar, quietly waiting. But its called trust. Even though I know he wouldn't just the thought of my boyfriend getting drunk worries me that he will make a bad decision. im **** off he doesnt call but should i be worried or just let it go? A lot. Every hour of his free time doesn't have to be dedicated to you. If everyone is happy and fully informed, then well done and furthermore none of my business. (and the funny thing is, in our relationship, I'm the one who's far more likely to go out by myself.). All this woman wants to know is if her boyfriend is going out, because when you care for someone, it just nice to know. He better go alone, because I won't be wasting my time in a place like that. :). When youre in a relationship, only YOU know the rules that you have. Anyways, tonight he is going out with his buddy (whom I have met) and he let me know. I am dealing with the same thing too. nah. So would this be not allowed in your relationship? A few slurred hey baby I'm OKs are not too much to ask. We J. like to know where the other one is, more for safety than out of paranoia or concerns of cheating. Do I end things? New episodes air Mondays on Facebook. They got married a year later. They said yes without question. Dont fall for this my life is in the hole either. Maintaining organization for your electronics is very enjoyable. Like myself. But even if that's your case, can you honestly say you don't have a hand in it? You still can go out. I don't ask many questions. Hope your ok x. I love my wife dearly, but I wouldn't go to a bar or restaurant with a member of the opposite sex alone. and yea i dont agree with how much he is going out and getting drunk. But, to each his own! To M. that is not a friendship. No, I could care less. But if you notice that these things are happening more frequently, whether it's you or your partner who's doing them, they could be red flags that all is not well. My husband (these days) wants M. to be happy and encourages M. to get time out doing things I love. I kinda had a feeling you were probably like meaffected negatively by a past relationship. khairete It is trying to control each other because deep down you don't trust each other to behave in a party environment. Track his every move know what he is doing all the time put a tracking chip on him shut up!! If they're traveling for a friend or family member's bachelor or bachelorette party, for instance, you might not be invited, so leaving you behind doesn't mean that they're pulling away. I'm in the same situation. Tinder, the popular dating app, is no longer just for hookups. ahhh thats the one=) I haven't been there since January so it was a nice change. It wasnt just that, he was a flirt. That's awesome. 10. my boyfriend and i are long distance and i'm in college. Am I crazy for being upset? I could understand drinking a little too much, but once you reach the level of passing out that borderlines alcoholism. A guy, but went home with a girl. I am one of those guys who doesn't drink often so when I do I also end up on a couch somewhere but I have good friends who protect me .won't let me drive etc.. Did you know that at least 4000 to 5000 of my posts were done before the thumbs up even came in. A bar you've been to with him and women are frequently coming to say hi to him, hugging him, getting his attention. Price: $18. Waiting outside the bar for your friends is also weird. Big difference. he doesn't drink at all and i practically never do. Some people are brutaly honest and would never cheat. The answer is to behave appropriately while there. Started January 23, By I mean I'd understand if he were a shady person, but he's not. I'm in need of help my boyfriend and I have been dating go a year and a bit he rang me telling me he going to a work do and that he would call in the morning I hqvent from him since I have his wallet and everything I'm so worried he might be cheating on me what do I do ?? That means, he wants to reassure you that a) he didn't go home with some bar floozy and b) he got home safely. I never liked this part of a relationship. about 60-70 % of all females at Los Angeles bars are already taken and there with girlfriends or they are actually there with their boyfriends lmao. While they can be highly effective in reducing pain, they also come with a high risk of addiction and overdose. But everyone has different needs, and desires. I have seen some of the married women that do. I tell it like it is. But when it seems like there's a sharp increase in time apart, that's not a good sign for your relationship.". The Best Gifts for Men in 2023 - Up to 30 different gift ideas for your man! You know, if you're meeting up with friends at a bar and you get there early. I would not judge, unless it was something a man or woman was doing to pick up one night stands.. Im sorry for saying all this, its not that i dont trust you its just i'd prefer you to be honest with me and tell me the truth rather than putting up with everything, it would make it easier for the both of us and our relationship! If I should meet another man, I see no reason not to remain friends with this man. She may be loud and obnoxious, overly flirtatious, and quite often visibly tanked. I have a friend that I met on eharmony. I was always like, I can't help it, we're in a bar and apparently I'm a hot commodity, ha! He missed work yesterday because he got drunk and another thing is that he didn't call me all day. Keep being yourself, good relationships are hard to come by, and people are only jealous of yours :). I do think individuals should have "M. time" and couples should have dates. You have to put trust into each other. Right now, it seems he's being attentive to your needs. yes i need a kick in the butt tonight! I occasionally go to after work happy hour with a big group of co-workers. Naturally, the latter should raise more eyebrows. blissfulblue Honestly..what i'm going to start doing is when I know hes going out to drink, you should just play his game..don't text/ call him..let him come to youif he does. Course I'm the wife who has encouraged her husband to go to the strip club with his friends for bachelor parties he knows he can get his appetite anywhere as long as he eats at home :) and I definitely reap the benefits of those rare sojourns into gyrating nekid females :). I think as long as a couple is totally happy and equal that's all that matters. Um, no. Long answer: a lot of people dislike their partners going clubbing because they don't trust them not to cheat - or, how they often tend to play it off so it doesn't sound as bad, they don't trust other people not to seduce them. Did I go to local bars and hang out and have all the fun you mentioned above when I was single? Most chicks out here don't go out to bars as singles. Dont laugh but normally I go out with my girls to the karaoke bar or this diner/ bar thing where we live, my spouse to Hooters (ew) or the sports bar and we dont have issues because its planned in advance and we know who the other person is hanging with.